This is a letter my husband wrote me back in 1998 that I wanted to share with anyone who might be struggling in their marriage. When this was written, I was about 4 yrs. into my new life walk with Christ. I was clinging to whatever little truth I knew at the time, and my husband was still searching for healing and truth in his life. When something is broke it is not always up to us to figure out how to fix it, but we can choose to place it at the foot of the cross. ~ This letter is in the raw. I figured if I were sitting getting ready to deploy overseas I wouldn’t be worried about editing either:
Well it’s almost time to depart for Korea and I thought I would drop you a line just incase it will be awhile before I talk to you again, hopefully it won’t be that long. I called the house today and I’m glad that you made it to your mom’s house ok, I just get so worried that the van might break down and you will be stranded in the middle of no where with the kids.
All I have to do know is pray you make it back home ok.
I hope the time that you spent with your mom gave you alittle sanity break, because when we last talked it sounded as if you could use alittle sanity break. Oh, I want to wish you once again Happy Valentine’s Day. You know it is kinda weird that the more time that I spend away from you I realize how much you really mean to me, and I don’t know what I would do without you. I guess it’s ironic(No, the grace of God) that we some how managed to stay together after all the things we have went through, but I guess the bottom line was that God put us together for a reason, huh?
Denise I know that I don’t say it much but I just want you to know that I appreciate every little thing that you do for me as well as the family. You know I was reading this little “Words of the day” that the Chaplin puts out everyday and what he wrote was about a woman who was really unhappy with her marriage because her husband wasn’t paying attention to her or the family and because he was always working all the time. And when they did try to talk about their relationship they would always end up arguing and fighting. Well this lady was really getting fed up and was thinking that the best thing would be to just get a divorce and her life would be better.
So one night she just prayed and asked God to help her with her problem, just then a verse came to her Philippians 4:8 “WHAT SO EVER THINGS ARE OF GOOD REPORT” at that time she knew that it wasn’t just her husband’s fault that the marriage had gone bad but hers as well, because she always dwelt on the negative stuff of her husband and not the good stuff.
When I read this it really brought me back to our relationship and how it could have turned out, but yet I remembered you had read the exact same verse to me when we had a fight a long time ago. I didn’t get it.. but you did, that is until today.
Denise you have a very long list of good qualities about you that I don’t know where to begin, but I really want you to know that I’m glad that I have you in my life and I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU!!!!!!!
Well baby, I must go the buses are here to take us to the plane so wish me luck and give my love to the kids. Talk to ya soon love always Mark
PS. I hope this wasn’t too mushy but it was straight from the Heart and I meant every word.
~ When one searches for the bad all the time, he or she is surely to find it….. but the same can be said about the good ~