Don’t be afraid to grow
When I first started on this journey of being a wife and mother, I had no clue on how to raise the little ones that were surrounding me. Infact, they were quickly out numbering me. All I knew at the time was I wanted to do things more than my limited views or experiences would allow. So, I sought out to learn through prayer, God’s word, and other women. I sought out Titus 2 women (go read Titus 2:3-5 if aren’t familiar. I will talk more about Titus 2 women in a future post). I am so thankful that God was faithful to bring women in my life that was willing to walk along side me and share their lives with me. But before any growth could take place I first, needed to make sure I had a teachable heart that wanted to grow.
There was a period in my life where I thought time was standing still and the busyness of the day, which included: wiping noses, changing diapers, eating cold meals, was going to last forever. However, the days, months, years, quickly flew by. Now I find myself as the mom of 2 adults, 2 teenagers, and my little man. So what did I learn?
I came up with this acrostic: D.A.R.E. The first reason I chose D.A.R.E was because it was all I could come up with (lol). But then I thought it takes some intentional living to put these things into practice. It takes commitment, strength, and focus.
I D.A.R.E. you to mother intentionally:
D – Discipline/ Disciple
As I stated earlier in my earlier post, our children need to be trained. We are all born into this world with a sin nature (Rom. 3:23). And we all need direction and guidance, even our children from the time they are born. Don’t believe me? Try asking a 2 or 3 year old to do something or not do something and see what result you get. They want their own way. I must add…..The ultimate goal is for our children to grow and know Jesus as their Lord and Savior (for themselves). He is the only one who can wash away our sins (Rom 6:23).
Our children need to be affirmed in who they are. They need to know they are loved and they are fearfully and wonderfully made in God’s image. They need positive reinforcement. It is easy a parent to want to focus on the negative things we see in our children. But by us taking the time to notice and reward the good things with our words and actions, we will build up our children! (Eph. 4:29)
R – Routine
Everyone’s routine will be different depending on your family’s circumstances. The point I want to make is: children thrive when they know what to expect from you and their environment. Strive to create a home and schedule that will make your children feel secure, stable, and rested. Crazy busy = Crazy stressed
E – Example
I also touched on this in my previous post. We must my good role-models for our children. How can a child learn self-control, how to extend grace, good word vs. bad words, ect… if they don’t see it first lived out their homes. Living in light of the gospel would be the best example you could ever give your children. Jesus is the ultimate role-model.
We have been given the greatest job in the world. The ability to raise our children is such a privilege that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Let us make sure we are taking the time to train, instruct, mold, shape them into the person God would have them to be.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. (Psalm 127:3-4)
All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. (2Tim.3:16-17)