I have something going on at my church right now called “Find One.” The objective is to go out and find someone and begin to invest in their life. How often are we just passing through life not taking the time to stop and minister to the needs of those around us? It is not that we need to try to fix and solve everyone’s problems, but it is recognizing that there are those around who just need to have our listening ear, caring heart, and nonjudgmental concern. Don’t let any road blocks that you may have put in place keep you from pursuing these relationships- fear of getting hurt, fear of over-committing oneself, fear of being vulnerable and accountable to someone. I personally have felt all of these things at one time or another. However, I can honestly say that my greatest joys in life has derived from the friendships God has brought into my life. A big thank you to all of you (you know who you are) who have taken the time to invest in my life. It really can just take “one” to make a big impact on someone’s life……..Here is pt. 3 of a series I wrote a few years ago.
Be a friend like no one else:
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up this companion. but woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
We need each other.
Do you have a close friend you can depend on? Even better, are you a dependable friend? My friendships have changed through out the years. God has been faithful to provide the right friend I have needed at the right time in my life. And I pray to God I have been the kind of friend they have needed.
There is a friendship in the bible that is coming to mind. I’m talking about David and Jonathan. I’m not going to go into every detail about their friendship, but you can read the whole account in 1 Samuel 20. Boy! What an example of a friendship! Jonathan loved David so much he was willing to give up his own kingship and lay down his life for him: “For he loved him as he loved his own soul” (1 Sam. 20:17). And 1 Sam. 18:1 goes as far to say, “The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Johnathan loved him as his own soul.”
We are called to share each other’s burdens.
Wow, finding someone you can trust who has your best interest at heart is a precious jewel to be treasured! However, when you are searching for that deep loving friendship, please be careful in not choosing someone who will encourage you in your sins. It’s so easy to find a complaining buddy, or someone who will agree with everything you say. It’s another thing to find someone who will walk through fire with you, and at the same time, be honest enough to speak truth into your life with the love of Christ leading them. And for goodness sake, don’t let gossip be found no where near you. Gossip is sinful and it destroys lives. Ok, there I said it.
I’m reminded of a book I read called Mom…..and loving it! There is part where the authors are talking about 3 different snap shots of a woman. It’s the third one really caught my attention. It is a woman who has a listening ear for a friend even if it meant her plans are interrupted. She looks at the other women with the eyes of God, being more concerned about how someone feels then how they dress. She loves the Lord. And she is dependent upon the Lords strength…..
Yes, this is the kind of woman I want to be.
So if you will join me, lets us lay aside anything that hinders us from being the kind of friend God would want us to be. Let us invest in each others lives, and I bet you will find that you are getting way far more in return than you have every given. God is faithful and He is good!
Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look not only for this own interest, but also for the interests of others. Phil. 2:3-4